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My GF kinda broke up with me

Created by: csick
Initial Creation Date: Nov 19, 2020
Published: Nov 19, 2020 at 12:56
Team: 2020-21 Montreal Canadiens
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Said she’s dealing with depression and needs a break. She would prefer if I moved on but said she won’t close the door on a future relationship. We both knew we were each other’s soulmates. I don’t wanna give up on her. What do I do?
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 12:56
    #1
    Jack MVP Campbell
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    Oof.
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 12:57
    #2
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    wait what
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 12:58
    #3
    Breadman likes Bread
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    Give her some space but try and support her as much as possible. Sorry bro.
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:00
    #4
    Dumb trades are easy
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    Edited Nov 19, 2020 at 1:06
    A lot of people are goint through a ruff patch right now. But I wish you to find someone that will appreciate you enough to see you as a part of the solution, not a part of the problem, in their personnal quest to happyness.

    - IF she crosses the bridge, burn it. There's no turning back.
    - The end of a relationship is always bad. Nice break ups dont exist. It's normal to feel awefull.
    - You can't see it right now, but it's just the start of something else.

    Sorry mate, I would offer you to go get a beer, but you know..
    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:01
    #5
    Bench Komorav 4ever
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    I’m sorry bro, idk man girls r tough. Try to get ur mind straight then think it out, don’t make a rash decision. Idk j trying to help, I’m definitely not the most qualified tho. Only u can make the best decision tho
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:02
    #6
    RangerWall92
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    Edited Nov 19, 2020 at 1:11
    Man that's tough to deal with. I'd say give her time and space but make sure she knows that you're there for her. Don't forget you have our support as well
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:05
    #7
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    This isn't the place for sage advice, but you should make sure she's getting professional help for the depression. Many times a person who is seriously depressed will push away those closest; she may feel like she's a burden to you. You know her best - is it a cry for help?
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:08
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    If shes insistent on space there isnt much you can do. Be there for her, support her how you can and if its meant to be it'll be. You dont need to give up on her you can be there for support. It's tough to go through mental health is tough. Don't rush anything new but also dont wait forever. Life has a weird way of working out and you can get through it
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:11
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    go to the strip club and have fun man.
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:14
    #10
    The other ones Drai
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    Girls are confusing
    Just try to support her as much as you can
    Don't make it weird though
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:15
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    Tell her you've changed your allegiances, you are now a Leafs fan. Girls love Leafs fans.
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:16
    #12
    RangerWall92
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    Quoting: Byrr
    Tell her you've changed your allegiances, you are now a Leafs fan. Girls love Leafs fans.


    Hence why they love me (not)
    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:22
    #13
    HadesOfSocal
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    Hang with the boys.
    The boys always got your back
    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:22
    #14
    RangerWall92
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    Quoting: HadesOfSoCal
    Hang with the boys.
    The boys always got your back


    And that includes us
    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:22
    #15
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    Quoting: CD282
    This isn't the place for sage advice, but you should make sure she's getting professional help for the depression. Many times a person who is seriously depressed will push away those closest; she may feel like she's a burden to you. You know her best - is it a cry for help?


    She said she dealt with suicide thoughts in the past and got professional help. And now she said she can’t be happy and in a relationship and love someone if she doesn’t love herself first. She said her mental health has been going bad again. I never judged her and always did my best to listen and support her.
    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:24
    #16
    RangerWall92
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    Quoting: csick
    She said she dealt with suicide thoughts in the past and got professional help. And now she said she can’t be happy and in a relationship and love someone if she doesn’t love herself first. She said her mental health has been going bad again.


    Lots of people are dealing with mental health issues and especially during these tough times. We're all in this together
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:25
    #17
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    Quoting: RangerWall92
    Lots of people are dealing with mental health issues and especially during these tough times. We're all in this together


    Yeah but it’s tough because I was always there for her and she’d ask to come see me when her mental health was bad a couple of times and then she said it was better. And now all of a sudden she calls for a break. She was telling me to move in with her in May like for the past few weeks
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:27
    #18
    RangerWall92
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    Quoting: csick
    Yeah but it’s tough because I was always there for her and she’d ask to come see me when her mental health was bad a couple of times and then she said it was better. And now all of a sudden she calls for a break. She was telling me to move in with her in May like for the past few weeks


    Yea I can imagine how you'd be upset. Don't take it too personally, and maybe she'll reach out again when she's ready but don't be too pushy
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:28
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    Sharks are willing to trade a bay area woman with future considerations for their second rounder in 21.
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:28
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    Quoting: csick
    She said she dealt with suicide thoughts in the past and got professional help. And now she said she can’t be happy and in a relationship and love someone if she doesn’t love herself first. She said her mental health has been going bad again.


    Just make sure she gets professional help again. Because losing you might be the straw that breaks the camel's back, you know? Even though she's pushing you away, it's not going to help her.

    Everyone is different, but I went through a similar patch with my SO.

    "... she said she can’t be happy and in a relationship and love someone if she doesn’t love herself first."

    I'd say just make sure she knows that YOU CAN, even if she can't. She needs to know that your love is unconditional. She CAN get back to that happy place and you'll be right next to her every step of the way there.

    [Man I wish this site had a DM option.]
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:29
    #21
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    Quoting: RangerWall92
    Yea I can imagine how you'd be upset. Don't take it too personally, and maybe she'll reach out again when she's ready but don't be too pushy


    Yeah I’m not gonna be pushy. I kinda felt like she didn’t want to put me down with her in this process but will leave the door open. But also doesn’t want me to wait. But she told me I can still message her and she would too.
    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:31
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    Quoting: CD282
    Just make sure she gets professional help again. Because losing you might be the straw that breaks the camel's back, you know? Even though she's pushing you away, it's not going to help her.

    Everyone is different, but I went through a similar patch with my SO.

    "... she said she can’t be happy and in a relationship and love someone if she doesn’t love herself first."

    I'd say just make sure she knows that YOU CAN, even if she can't. She needs to know that your love is unconditional. She CAN get back to that happy place and you'll be right next to her every step of the way there.

    [Man I wish this site had a DM option.]


    Yeah thanks. You can always reach out to me if u wanna chat more too. I’d love to know what I can do without hurting her or her pushing me away more
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:32
    #23
    RangerWall92
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    Quoting: csick
    Yeah I’m not gonna be pushy. I kinda felt like she didn’t want to put me down with her in this process but will leave the door open. But also doesn’t want me to wait. But she told me I can still message her and she would too.


    So at least it seems like you guys support each other still which is a good sign
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:33
    #24
    Bench Komorav 4ever
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    Quoting: csick
    She said she dealt with suicide thoughts in the past and got professional help. And now she said she can’t be happy and in a relationship and love someone if she doesn’t love herself first. She said her mental health has been going bad again. I never judged her and always did my best to listen and support her.


    She has a point here, maybe let her figure things out, support her, and once she’s got her mind straight swoop in and see what’s up. It definitely doesn’t sound like things are 100% over from what I’ve heard, but what do I know
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    Nov 19, 2020 at 1:36
    #25
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    Quoting: RangerWall92
    So at least it seems like you guys support each other still which is a good sign


    Yeah we have everything in common and she said I’m her person like a million times and then was talking about moving in together
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