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Forum: Armchair-GMMar. 4 at 8:51 a.m.
Forum: The BoxJan. 2 at 9:35 a.m.
Thread: Life Advice
<div class="quote"><div class="quote_t">Quoting: <b>LeafsFanForSomeReason</b></div><div>Hope this thread will lead to helpful interactions for lots of people on here, but what spurred me to create it is my situation that I'll explain:

So I had started seeing someone a while back - near the beginning of August and we were officially together before the end of the month. Things were going great. She's a fantastic person who made my life so much brighter in so many ways. Around mid-late November though she had to move for a promotion (so proud of her!) that would relocate her to Ottawa, about 8-9 hours drive away from me. We had talked about the possibility of me joining her, which I was on board with. It would mean a big step for a relationship only a few months old, but I wanted us to progress, and so did she. We both felt like this could be something special. Here's where the hitch comes in...

So I should explain that there is an age gap; I'm 23 soon to be 24, she's 27 soon to be 28. The thing is that she has timeline that's very important to her (for private personal reasons that I won't share) where she wants to be in, or at least starting, the marriage and kids stage at 30. So, in large part because of that timeline, she asked me not to come unless I was 110% sure that we would work out and be able to stick to that plan. And I don't know, as much as the thought of that future with her makes me happy, it seems like a lot to promise after just 4ish months. It feels like it may as well be a proposal - no ring involved but I'd be giving my word that, yes, beyond a shadow of a doubt, we will have that life.

And so we broke up. I didn't feel right about promising all that. Not because I don't want it, but because if I were to agree to that and then for whatever reason it didn't work out, I'd feel like the biggest jerk in the world for wrecking her plans/timeline. I want her to have the life that she wants and deserves and I could never forgive myself if I were the reason she didn't.

But now I'm just sitting here, missing her so much, and wondering if I'm being stupid for walking away from a life I feel I would have been happy in because I felt like I was being rushed into it...


Thanks for taking the time to read, if you did. Any thoughts would be much appreciated. And please, if you have any problems or questions of your own, by all means add them to the thread.</div></div>

Its a bit odd to answer such a question from a perfect stranger on a hockey related forum, but I do relate to your story, so here's my advice. From the way you describe the way you feel about this relationship, it looks like you will double think this decision for the next 20 years. I have no way to tell whether the move is worth it, but you're 24, what do you have to lose? But take it step by step: you could move to Ottawa to show her you mean business, but make it known that the mariage/kids committment will happen when you'll be ready. Having kids is such a life changing decision, and it can be so much fun, it shouldn't be forced upon you, not even by your loved one.
Forum: Armchair-GMDec. 19, 2023 at 6:17 p.m.
Forum: Armchair-GMOct. 24, 2023 at 9:43 a.m.
<div class="quote"><div class="quote_t">Quoting: <b>MontysPython</b></div><div>Let's see...

Vlasic-36yo(contract ends at 39yo)

Gallagher-31yo(contract ends at 35yo)

Gallagher costs $500k less, and is currently playing well(3 in 5).

Not only is Vlasic a Lhd, but he's old too.
Mtl's Lhd depth chart;
Matheson
Guhle
Harris
Xhekaj
Hutson
Trudeau
Norlinder
Engstrom
Struble
Beaudin
Mittelstadt
Nurmi

If we're trading Gally from last year, then maybe. But right now they'd never do this, and I'm pretty sure a 36yo whose played his whole career in San Jose wouldn't be too happy with a trade, nor would his longterm teammates.(and same w mtl) Gallagher is also one of the biggest locker room presences right now on a team trying to emulate his work ethic, and has been his whole career.

I also think that Vlasic not having a letter on a team he's been on for 18 years is something.


Saying they have relatively weak depth at Lhd is ludicrous, and then giving them a 36yo 2Lhd on the Sharks as an upgrade is just weird. Montreal is also one of the richest organizations, money ain't a problem at all. Trading someone whose given countless injuries and LITERAL blood sweat and tears for 1 year of cap relief is honestly laughable. Sending him to a team that's gonna be worse would do nothing but break bridges and harm reputations. Realistically neither player fits Montreals window of competition. They'll both be retired.

I'm sorry if I came off as angry, and I do agree Gally's not the player he was, but come on.</div></div>

It may voiced by resentment, but your argument perfectly sums all the reasons why this trade falls short. Kudos.
Forum: NHL SigningsJun. 5, 2023 at 9:47 p.m.